Showing posts with label life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label life. Show all posts

dear me


Dear Me,

I am writing this today as a reminder of where we are and what we are passing through. I woke up and realized that everything was blur and I was sinking but in this state I am reminded that Pain demands to be felt.

“Whatever my lot, grace has taught me to say, it is well in the deepest confines of my soul” see that will always be our confession despite the odds. *smiles* It has been a tough year this, but when you look back at it, you will realize that it will make for a good story, the scars, the turns and the lows.

Someone said to me, “ You are like the strongest person I know..” and in my heart I smiled and I went into a monologue as to how my strength was basically a function of trust, I am not sure I have the ability to worry too much especially when I am aware that worry would not change anything. Strength for me is learning to rely on the orchestrator of my days and not how smart I think I am. I am evolving, when you read this, You will realize that we were only getting better for the life and living.

Another person asked, “How do you stay believing?” and I answered, I don’t know really but all I can say is I have a deep seated conviction in the wisdom of our maker that even if I can’t trace his hands, I can trust his plan. Sometimes stuff doesn’t make sense but that doesn’t mean He is unaware, always remember, Roman 8 vs 28… All things not some things, not a few things, not major events not minor details, ALL THINGS work for the good of them .

Life must be lived on the corridor of faith, even the unbelieving have faith, even the atheist have faith, faith that whatever supplies breath would be there when they wake up every day. But my faith is hinged on the unshakable promise that He who holds my days wastes nothing, not even my dark days. There is purpose to my pain.

I wrote this because, I know dark days will come again but I need you to remember where you have been. All we have carried consistently is hope, Hope that no matter what happens there is victory for us, always.

As always, be a shoulder for someone to lean on, light the way so others would not stumble in darkness, love selflessly that is the only way to be a beacon in an already vengeful world, forgive quickly, every offence is forgivable never give a justifiable reason for grudge. Continue to live with intent, whatever you heart desires, go for it. Don’t forget that you are living right here and right now.
I have found safety in the knowledge that we will be fine, always.

Remember to always say “THANK YOU, the world owes you nothing so be grateful when a door opens for you, be eternally grateful when someone shows you kindness no matter how small and when you can return the favor, help someone else.

Thrive!! We always win.
                                                                                                                                                                  


mumblings


I have been gleaning and pondering over a few life lessons for a while now and I may share a few. Life teaches us. This is basically the most constant of all truths, sometimes we are patient enough to learn and some other time, we are just too much in a hurry to learn so we get burnt.

Religion I have come to know is an escape rout from reality, religious people are too afraid to talk about the most glaring things, like death, like failure, like depression and anxiety, they would rather wave it away with “it is well or God knows best” than seek clarity.

Life is filled with death defying moments, I know this because I have been there, I have stared death in the face and I have lived and I have spent time learning to question, to ask, to seek direction to be both spiritually and mentally aware, I do not leave my life to “Just” prayers and confession, I have learned to be self aware to decide the course of my life and the things I claim to believe.

Does everything make sense? No..
Will you always be happy? No
Will you feel a sense of purposelessness? Yes
Will life overwhelm you sometimes? Yes
Will you always have answers? NO

Life is a hard school, it knocks you down so bad that you will almost rather not get up but here is the thing, Hold the light, hold your light, fuck fear and just do what your heart yearns for. It will not always make sense, it will not always be well but what we become is that we most choose to ask questions, to seek direction and to desire to be more aware of who we are and not what we are told.


Goodness

Hey Dreamer,

So today I decided to talk to you about something I feel is very essential if you would do more than survive in this terrain. If you didn’t get the previous letters, just check my previous thoughts at www.iamewoma.blogspot.com.ng you will find it helpful.
So, I know how hard it is to trust people around these parts, you basically need to watch your back so many times because You are not even certain who is against you or who is for you, I am not about talking to you about trust but something I consider very vital if you will thrive. Please, read carefully.

Let us briefly talk about doing good and being good and how it works. I have come to know that goodness is a seed and when planted it produces a tree of goodwill and its fruits are a lasting legacy.

Have you ever wondered why some people seem to “have it easy”, it is not always about connection, it sometimes the basic fact that that have planted a seed of goodness and without knowing they are eating its fruits.

The true depth of a man’s character is known when he has nothing and his true character is revealed when he has all things. You want to know a good person, see how he treats those he is in a position to help and those he will not benefit from. Good people are not good because they have everything; they are good because it is their nature. Abundance amplifies the character of a man and lack reveals the desperation of man.

Always remember this; our life is a gift to those around us. We cannot and should not play the role of God in their lives but you can shine a light so bright that they see God through your eyes. If you will thrive then you must be good for goodness sake.

People will want to and people will take advantage of you, some who misunderstand your intentions and some would out rightly stand in your way but do good nonetheless. Stop trying to please everybody, you can’t and stop campaigning for general acceptance, you cannot carry the weight of the world. Never allow the acceptance or non-acceptance of people determine your stance, Just learn to trust your instinct.

Anticipating reward for your kindness is not being good, that is doing business. Being good for goodness sake implies that even if nobody would notice, I will do what I can to help when I can. Sometimes it hard to be good, especially when you have too many sad experiences but if we allow what other people did to us to stop us from reaching out to others then we are no different from the people who hurt us.

Finally, friend, the very best is churned out when we begin to see the good in others, when we look beyond flaws and frailties, when we begin to trust the fact that not everybody is out to hurt us. Do not allow the “bad in others stop you from being good to others”.

The sign of a good heart is gratitude, Good people are grateful people and a grateful person sets himself up for abundance and that is the key to thriving, my dear friend.


Believe in yourself, be good to those around you, expect nothing back and life will find a way to be good to you.

Hey Hustler 2

Hey Hustler,

I know we have not spoken to each other in a while and that is because I understand the phase you are in right now, a lot is happening and sometimes you feel you are out of purpose or just maybe you are not even certain what your purpose is, but like i will always say, “stay in the fight, you will come out stronger”.

Here my one kobo, you will need it in this phase of uncertainty, remember all I told you about knowledge(www.iamewoma.blogspot.com.ng/2016/03/hey-hustler.html). Knowledge is at its best potential, applied knowledge is power.

Because you own a car doesn’t mean you can produce it, just cause you know all models of a car does not translate to the fact that you can fix the car if it develops a fault, at best what you have is knowledge and its not valuable but see the Motor Mechanic knows the car, He may not be able to manufacture it but he is knowledgeable enough to fix it, yet it not valuable until he begins to fix it. Applied knowledge is power.

People don’t pay you for what you know, they pay you for doing something with what you know.

Do not join the LXT (League Of Xtraordinary Talkers), they have too many ideas in their head not one failure to show that they attempted something. Be wise, my guy! Money is reward for value, it is earned not demanded.

I will leave you with a few nuggets on wisdom and please, try and apply them this time, you will definitely do better.

-Choose your battles carefully, Knowing when to walk away is wisdom.

-Be available; Let your actions endorse your words.

-Wisdom is being humble enough to know who to listen to. Your mentors speak from a perspective of experience. You don’t have to fall to know it hurts.

-Wisdom listens more than it speaks. Learn to close your mouth, open your ears and open your mind.

-Wisdom is not loud; it is firm. You don’t have to shout to validate your point. Remember, empty barrels make the loudest noise.

-Wisdom begins when you start to understand instructions.

-Wisdom is consistent. Consistency is what births integrity. Integrity is not a spiritual gift just like trust, it is earned.

-Wisdom knows that success is relative and that life is not a competition.

Make everyday count friend. Remember, applied knowledge!



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