Dear Me,

I am writing this today as a reminder of where we are and what we are passing through. I woke up and realized that everything was blur and I was sinking but in this state I am reminded that Pain demands to be felt.

“Whatever my lot, grace has taught me to say, it is well in the deepest confines of my soul” see that will always be our confession despite the odds. *smiles* It has been a tough year this, but when you look back at it, you will realize that it will make for a good story, the scars, the turns and the lows.

Someone said to me, “ You are like the strongest person I know..” and in my heart I smiled and I went into a monologue as to how my strength was basically a function of trust, I am not sure I have the ability to worry too much especially when I am aware that worry would not change anything. Strength for me is learning to rely on the orchestrator of my days and not how smart I think I am. I am evolving, when you read this, You will realize that we were only getting better for the life and living.

Another person asked, “How do you stay believing?” and I answered, I don’t know really but all I can say is I have a deep seated conviction in the wisdom of our maker that even if I can’t trace his hands, I can trust his plan. Sometimes stuff doesn’t make sense but that doesn’t mean He is unaware, always remember, Roman 8 vs 28… All things not some things, not a few things, not major events not minor details, ALL THINGS work for the good of them .

Life must be lived on the corridor of faith, even the unbelieving have faith, even the atheist have faith, faith that whatever supplies breath would be there when they wake up every day. But my faith is hinged on the unshakable promise that He who holds my days wastes nothing, not even my dark days. There is purpose to my pain.

I wrote this because, I know dark days will come again but I need you to remember where you have been. All we have carried consistently is hope, Hope that no matter what happens there is victory for us, always.

As always, be a shoulder for someone to lean on, light the way so others would not stumble in darkness, love selflessly that is the only way to be a beacon in an already vengeful world, forgive quickly, every offence is forgivable never give a justifiable reason for grudge. Continue to live with intent, whatever you heart desires, go for it. Don’t forget that you are living right here and right now.

I have found safety in the knowledge that we will be fine, always.

Remember to always say “THANK YOU, the world owes you nothing so be grateful when a door opens for you, be eternally grateful when someone shows you kindness no matter how small and when you can return the favor, help someone else.

Thrive!! We always win.

                                                                                                                                                                  

Hey,

I feel the need to write to you again and talk about a few things. I am aware of the uncertainties in our Nation’s economy and as always I try not be drawn into a negative narrative of what should be or what shouldn’t be;  so I thought it best to show you how to thrive despite the prevailing conditions.

Let’s talk about “CHANGE”, by the way I hope you read my previous letters (www.iamewoma.blogspot.com.ng) and you are taking steps to apply and not just gather knowledge.

Truth is at some point in your life, You will be wrong, You will take a wrong step, make a wrong move, you will make wrong decisions, pursue wrong opportunities, listen and follow wrong advisers and feed a wrong relationship but my friend You must learn to fail, learn your lessons and then try again, this time, you will be aided by experience, and you will want to do better. When you are wrong then you will understand the concept of change, the very idea that change is essential to your life and to all that concerns you.

Change begins with responsibility, if you want to change something, take responsibility for it, blaming someone for what is wrong, doesn’t make wrong, right; blame changes nothing! And you cannot always make excuses for what is wrong. As a hustler, as a dreamer, always remember these immortal words “YOU CANNOT DEPOSIT EXCUSES”.

To navigate through life you must be flexible and embrace the dynamism of life. You need to know where you stand, how to adapt to change. All movement is not forward and not all change is progressive. You must not confuse mobility for progress and you must not confuse stagnancy for stability, activity doesn’t directly equate result.

The reason why I talked to you about knowledge (www.iamewoma.com.ng) is because Information precedes change. You have heard it been said that “Change is the only constant thing in life” and as true as that sounds, Change is not growth.

Let me quickly round this off so you can go back to doing what you love or what you are currently pretending to love.

Change is a process and because Change is a process then it must be deliberate. You cannot stumble into greatness, that is not an everyday event, if you want to change your circumstances, if you want to be better then you must have a plan, you must have a blueprint for where you want to be. Shouting or thinking Change doesn’t change things. You need a Plan.

Hence my submission: - Change is commitment. If you want to change forward then you need to be committed to a plan and take responsibility.

Talk to again soon my friend, and you might want to share this with your friends.