I have been gleaning and pondering over a few life lessons for a while now and I may share a few. Life teaches us. This is basically the most constant of all truths, sometimes we are patient enough to learn and some other time, we are just too much in a hurry to learn so we get burnt.

Religion I have come to know is an escape rout from reality, religious people are too afraid to talk about the most glaring things, like death, like failure, like depression and anxiety, they would rather wave it away with “it is well or God knows best” than seek clarity.

Life is filled with death defying moments, I know this because I have been there, I have stared death in the face and I have lived and I have spent time learning to question, to ask, to seek direction to be both spiritually and mentally aware, I do not leave my life to “Just” prayers and confession, I have learned to be self aware to decide the course of my life and the things I claim to believe.

Does everything make sense? No..

Will you always be happy? No

Will you feel a sense of purposelessness? Yes

Will life overwhelm you sometimes? Yes

Will you always have answers? NO

Life is a hard school, it knocks you down so bad that you will almost rather not get up but here is the thing, Hold the light, hold your light, fuck fear and just do what your heart yearns for. It will not always make sense, it will not always be well but what we become is that we most choose to ask questions, to seek direction and to desire to be more aware of who we are and not what we are told.

Hey Dreamer,

So today I decided to talk to you about something I feel is very essential if you would do more than survive in this terrain. If you didn’t get the previous letters, just check my previous thoughts at www.iamewoma.blogspot.com.ng you will find it helpful.

So, I know how hard it is to trust people around these parts, you basically need to watch your back so many times because You are not even certain who is against you or who is for you, I am not about talking to you about trust but something I consider very vital if you will thrive. Please, read carefully.

Let us briefly talk about doing good and being good and how it works. I have come to know that goodness is a seed and when planted it produces a tree of goodwill and its fruits are a lasting legacy.

Have you ever wondered why some people seem to “have it easy”, it is not always about connection, it sometimes the basic fact that that have planted a seed of goodness and without knowing they are eating its fruits.

The true depth of a man’s character is known when he has nothing and his true character is revealed when he has all things. You want to know a good person, see how he treats those he is in a position to help and those he will not benefit from. Good people are not good because they have everything; they are good because it is their nature. Abundance amplifies the character of a man and lack reveals the desperation of man.

Always remember this; our life is a gift to those around us. We cannot and should not play the role of God in their lives but you can shine a light so bright that they see God through your eyes. If you will thrive then you must be good for goodness sake.

People will want to and people will take advantage of you, some who misunderstand your intentions and some would out rightly stand in your way but do good nonetheless. Stop trying to please everybody, you can’t and stop campaigning for general acceptance, you cannot carry the weight of the world. Never allow the acceptance or non-acceptance of people determine your stance, Just learn to trust your instinct.

Anticipating reward for your kindness is not being good, that is doing business. Being good for goodness sake implies that even if nobody would notice, I will do what I can to help when I can. Sometimes it hard to be good, especially when you have too many sad experiences but if we allow what other people did to us to stop us from reaching out to others then we are no different from the people who hurt us.

Finally, friend, the very best is churned out when we begin to see the good in others, when we look beyond flaws and frailties, when we begin to trust the fact that not everybody is out to hurt us. Do not allow the “bad in others stop you from being good to others”.

The sign of a good heart is gratitude, Good people are grateful people and a grateful person sets himself up for abundance and that is the key to thriving, my dear friend.

Believe in yourself, be good to those around you, expect nothing back and life will find a way to be good to you.