Dear Me,

I am writing this today as a reminder of where we are and what we are passing through. I woke up and realized that everything was blur and I was sinking but in this state I am reminded that Pain demands to be felt.

“Whatever my lot, grace has taught me to say, it is well in the deepest confines of my soul” see that will always be our confession despite the odds. *smiles* It has been a tough year this, but when you look back at it, you will realize that it will make for a good story, the scars, the turns and the lows.

Someone said to me, “ You are like the strongest person I know..” and in my heart I smiled and I went into a monologue as to how my strength was basically a function of trust, I am not sure I have the ability to worry too much especially when I am aware that worry would not change anything. Strength for me is learning to rely on the orchestrator of my days and not how smart I think I am. I am evolving, when you read this, You will realize that we were only getting better for the life and living.

Another person asked, “How do you stay believing?” and I answered, I don’t know really but all I can say is I have a deep seated conviction in the wisdom of our maker that even if I can’t trace his hands, I can trust his plan. Sometimes stuff doesn’t make sense but that doesn’t mean He is unaware, always remember, Roman 8 vs 28… All things not some things, not a few things, not major events not minor details, ALL THINGS work for the good of them .

Life must be lived on the corridor of faith, even the unbelieving have faith, even the atheist have faith, faith that whatever supplies breath would be there when they wake up every day. But my faith is hinged on the unshakable promise that He who holds my days wastes nothing, not even my dark days. There is purpose to my pain.

I wrote this because, I know dark days will come again but I need you to remember where you have been. All we have carried consistently is hope, Hope that no matter what happens there is victory for us, always.

As always, be a shoulder for someone to lean on, light the way so others would not stumble in darkness, love selflessly that is the only way to be a beacon in an already vengeful world, forgive quickly, every offence is forgivable never give a justifiable reason for grudge. Continue to live with intent, whatever you heart desires, go for it. Don’t forget that you are living right here and right now.

I have found safety in the knowledge that we will be fine, always.

Remember to always say “THANK YOU, the world owes you nothing so be grateful when a door opens for you, be eternally grateful when someone shows you kindness no matter how small and when you can return the favor, help someone else.

Thrive!! We always win.

                                                                                                                                                                  

Hey Dreamer,

So today I decided to talk to you about something I feel is very essential if you would do more than survive in this terrain. If you didn’t get the previous letters, just check my previous thoughts at www.iamewoma.blogspot.com.ng you will find it helpful.

So, I know how hard it is to trust people around these parts, you basically need to watch your back so many times because You are not even certain who is against you or who is for you, I am not about talking to you about trust but something I consider very vital if you will thrive. Please, read carefully.

Let us briefly talk about doing good and being good and how it works. I have come to know that goodness is a seed and when planted it produces a tree of goodwill and its fruits are a lasting legacy.

Have you ever wondered why some people seem to “have it easy”, it is not always about connection, it sometimes the basic fact that that have planted a seed of goodness and without knowing they are eating its fruits.

The true depth of a man’s character is known when he has nothing and his true character is revealed when he has all things. You want to know a good person, see how he treats those he is in a position to help and those he will not benefit from. Good people are not good because they have everything; they are good because it is their nature. Abundance amplifies the character of a man and lack reveals the desperation of man.

Always remember this; our life is a gift to those around us. We cannot and should not play the role of God in their lives but you can shine a light so bright that they see God through your eyes. If you will thrive then you must be good for goodness sake.

People will want to and people will take advantage of you, some who misunderstand your intentions and some would out rightly stand in your way but do good nonetheless. Stop trying to please everybody, you can’t and stop campaigning for general acceptance, you cannot carry the weight of the world. Never allow the acceptance or non-acceptance of people determine your stance, Just learn to trust your instinct.

Anticipating reward for your kindness is not being good, that is doing business. Being good for goodness sake implies that even if nobody would notice, I will do what I can to help when I can. Sometimes it hard to be good, especially when you have too many sad experiences but if we allow what other people did to us to stop us from reaching out to others then we are no different from the people who hurt us.

Finally, friend, the very best is churned out when we begin to see the good in others, when we look beyond flaws and frailties, when we begin to trust the fact that not everybody is out to hurt us. Do not allow the “bad in others stop you from being good to others”.

The sign of a good heart is gratitude, Good people are grateful people and a grateful person sets himself up for abundance and that is the key to thriving, my dear friend.

Believe in yourself, be good to those around you, expect nothing back and life will find a way to be good to you.