Dear Me,

I am writing this today as a reminder of where we are and what we are passing through. I woke up and realized that everything was blur and I was sinking but in this state I am reminded that Pain demands to be felt.

“Whatever my lot, grace has taught me to say, it is well in the deepest confines of my soul” see that will always be our confession despite the odds. *smiles* It has been a tough year this, but when you look back at it, you will realize that it will make for a good story, the scars, the turns and the lows.

Someone said to me, “ You are like the strongest person I know..” and in my heart I smiled and I went into a monologue as to how my strength was basically a function of trust, I am not sure I have the ability to worry too much especially when I am aware that worry would not change anything. Strength for me is learning to rely on the orchestrator of my days and not how smart I think I am. I am evolving, when you read this, You will realize that we were only getting better for the life and living.

Another person asked, “How do you stay believing?” and I answered, I don’t know really but all I can say is I have a deep seated conviction in the wisdom of our maker that even if I can’t trace his hands, I can trust his plan. Sometimes stuff doesn’t make sense but that doesn’t mean He is unaware, always remember, Roman 8 vs 28… All things not some things, not a few things, not major events not minor details, ALL THINGS work for the good of them .

Life must be lived on the corridor of faith, even the unbelieving have faith, even the atheist have faith, faith that whatever supplies breath would be there when they wake up every day. But my faith is hinged on the unshakable promise that He who holds my days wastes nothing, not even my dark days. There is purpose to my pain.

I wrote this because, I know dark days will come again but I need you to remember where you have been. All we have carried consistently is hope, Hope that no matter what happens there is victory for us, always.

As always, be a shoulder for someone to lean on, light the way so others would not stumble in darkness, love selflessly that is the only way to be a beacon in an already vengeful world, forgive quickly, every offence is forgivable never give a justifiable reason for grudge. Continue to live with intent, whatever you heart desires, go for it. Don’t forget that you are living right here and right now.

I have found safety in the knowledge that we will be fine, always.

Remember to always say “THANK YOU, the world owes you nothing so be grateful when a door opens for you, be eternally grateful when someone shows you kindness no matter how small and when you can return the favor, help someone else.

Thrive!! We always win.

                                                                                                                                                                  

Hey Hustler,

I hope you have found and are finding my lessons useful for life. I am about to share a few thoughts with you, I was inspired by a facebook post written by a friend and I will share with you relatively something that dropped in my head as I read the post.

We are learning to be Humans. Nobody comes into life holding a manual on how to be an exceptional human being. We learn as we live, sometimes our only advantage is that we have people who help us with and by their experiences.

The reason we are called “Human Beings” and not “Human Beens” is simple, we evolve as we live, we learn as we make mistakes, we grow as we seek opportunities, so please forgive people when they make mistakes, We are just Human be-ing.

Stop trying to impress people, the people you are trying to impress are on the same journey as you, some might be far ahead of you, some might be confused as to who, what and where they are but we are all on a journey of self discovery, so please live life at your own pace and be happy with who you are while striving and thriving to be better.

Be expressive, learning to speak up is essential to defining boundaries and putting yourself out there. Not everybody understands your silence, so it would be good if you help the people in your life by being more expressive. Not everybody has your sense of humour, people understand on different levels. Don’t be too quick to shut people out, sometimes give them the benefit of doubt but never allow people walk over you. Be expressive, define boundaries.

Have a little faith in humanity. Believe in people, Help people, Go out of your way to be of help to a random person. There are nice people everywhere, if you cannot find a nice person then be one. Never allow the ingratitude of others stop you from being good to people. The action of one does not equate to the actions of all. Faith in humanity is an asset not a luxury. Anyways, I will talk to you about this some other time.

Finally, you must learn to be happy and build connections that support your happiness. Don’t surround yourself with people who need you to always have a reason before you can be happy. Happiness is not something borrowed, it is self created. Happiness is not about activities, that is momentary excitement, Happiness most times is a function of the right relationship(s).

When you create memories with people, you give yourself a shot at being happy for a long time. Someone wise enough once said, “Happiness is like a kiss, you must share it to enjoy it”. Happiness is not being liked by the world; Happiness is being understood by those that matter to you

When happiness is mistaken for fame we are rehearsing for disaster. It gets lonely in the spotlight sometimes, but happiness is having someone to share your struggles with. My dear hustler, remember, we are learning to live, there is no perfect way to live life but if you have enough faith then you will always find a way.

Don’t just  live, Thrive!!!!