Death-The Friend
The End of a life is not exactly as important as the depth of
that life. The reason why we cry when we lose someone to death, is mostly
because of the finality of death. Death puts life in perspective, Death gives
us a better understanding of how best we are to live.
When we lose someone, our first thoughts are probably, how
we wish we had spent more time with them or done more for them or created more
memories with them, and these because with death, every chance fades.
Now, some of us, transfer the feeling of wanting to do more and
then become better to the people that are with us, while some do this out of
guilt or a misguided sense of remorse, others just simply, crawl into a dark
hole and spend every moment digging deeper, now this is because, Death leaves a
void, an emptiness that even time cannot fill.
When people are faced with losing a loved one or a close
one, I subscribe to the fact that we are to let them mourn anyways they feel
they want to. If you lose a friend suddenly, it changes your paradigm, it shakes
your world, like literally, leaves you doubting the entire reason for existence,
now that feeling might linger and sometimes with the passing of time, we get to
adjust and leave with the void, but never should anyone make you feel like your
hurt is not valid.
Most of us, are afraid to talk about death, we are afraid to
have a conversation about the very thing that reaches us how to live, how to
love and how to connect. Death is our friend; it is what makes TIME IMPORTANT.
Even our Christian faith is hinged on death, and to enjoy
the benefit of the salvation that Christ brings, you must identify with the
death, which is symbolic with baptism. I can go on and on about the benefit and
the beauty of death but too many of us are too sensitive to the reality.
Life is flirting, Time is an illusion and when we come to
terms with death then it is easier for us to live with intent, to find purpose in
everything we do. The circle of life implies that when one dies, another is born,
and when we accept that we become one with life and one with the world around
us.
When you conquer the fear of death, we gain the confidence
we need to live, to win and to thrive.