HER THOUGHTS

It is been a while I dropped something here, *whew* it is been a very busy and hectic period but hey, I got around to sharing something i wrote a while ago, I do hope You enjoy reading it..               

It was father's day yesterday and we sent out messages to the men who we consider to be fathers in our lives and I also celebrated my mentor and friend but rarely does a discussion get me excited as much as this one did. I decided to share with you, the content of my “BBM” chat with a friend of mine. 

My very question was “How do you describe a father, a husband and a man” and below is her response.

Man – A man is someone who has realized that he is not self-sufficient. By this he recognizes he is capable of mistakes and isn't ashamed to admit that he is not perfect. Most times, males tend to have superiority complex thinking which makes them believe that they are all in all. Anybody in this stage is still a boy. What you have doesn't make you a man; it is what you are willing to learn that makes you a man.

               

Husband – A husband is someone who sees the purposeful emptiness in him and has a need to find the woman who will fill the void. He doesn't want her to, he needs her to. When he wants her to, he is a boyfriend. He is not a husband until he needs her to complete him.

The HUSBAND

Father – A father is like a shepherd, who is never willing to sell his sheep. He will feed them, clothe them, love them, teach them, name them and jealously guard them and look out for them if lost. The father is more than a shepherd because he shares life with his children. A father’s effort only starts where a shepherd stops.

The FATHER

                

These three individuals are different species from a male, beard, six packs or pot belle doesn't make you any of these. To successfully become a true embodiment of species, the male needs God, he needs humility; he needs an open heart and needs to learn how to love despite and in spite of. The day this three meet in the male and exist side by side then the male can say he has triumphed.

And my thoughts:

My heart skipped beats when I read this message from her and I wished and prayed that every male would come to the realization of this truth. It’s not just about the multiple things that we possess, but much more than our acquisitions, can we become the men that God has created us to be without losing sight of our priorities. 

We must steadily create a home for the ladies in our life and grow from being boys to great men that we can be and be examples for our children to see and models for them to follow. Men must come to understand that as they love the women in their life that these women would naturally submit to them. 

Men must not see themselves as missionaries instead we must realize that the aim of marriage and relationships is not conformity but understanding. We don’t try to change the woman and stifle her spirit instead we are to nurture. understand her and gently compliment her in every way and every how that we can and lead her to grow. 

You are the head because you are strong, she is the neck because she can support you and she was taken from your side so you can cover and protect her as you walk side by side and fulfill the reason why you are called one. The world needs its men to take their place and become all that God has made them to be.