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Tuesday, August 02, 2016 0 Comments A+ a-

Hey,



I feel the need to write to you again and talk about a few things. I am aware of the uncertainties in our Nation’s economy and as always I try not be drawn into a negative narrative of what should be or what shouldn’t be;  so I thought it best to show you how to thrive despite the prevailing conditions.

Let’s talk about “CHANGE”, by the way I hope you read my previous letters (www.iamewoma.blogspot.com.ng) and you are taking steps to apply and not just gather knowledge.





Truth is at some point in your life, You will be wrong, You will take a wrong step, make a wrong move, you will make wrong decisions, pursue wrong opportunities, listen and follow wrong advisers and feed a wrong relationship but my friend You must learn to fail, learn your lessons and then try again, this time, you will be aided by experience, and you will want to do better. When you are wrong then you will understand the concept of change, the very idea that change is essential to your life and to all that concerns you.



Change begins with responsibility, if you want to change something, take responsibility for it, blaming someone for what is wrong, doesn’t make wrong, right; blame changes nothing! And you cannot always make excuses for what is wrong. As a hustler, as a dreamer, always remember these immortal words “YOU CANNOT DEPOSIT EXCUSES”.

To navigate through life you must be flexible and embrace the dynamism of life. You need to know where you stand, how to adapt to change. All movement is not forward and not all change is progressive. You must not confuse mobility for progress and you must not confuse stagnancy for stability, activity doesn’t directly equate result.



The reason why I talked to you about knowledge (www.iamewoma.com.ng) is because Information precedes change. You have heard it been said that “Change is the only constant thing in life” and as true as that sounds, Change is not growth.

Let me quickly round this off so you can go back to doing what you love or what you are currently pretending to love.


Change is a process and because Change is a process then it must be deliberate. You cannot stumble into greatness, that is not an everyday event, if you want to change your circumstances, if you want to be better then you must have a plan, you must have a blueprint for where you want to be. Shouting or thinking Change doesn’t change things. You need a Plan.



Let me sound like a broken record, right now, Change is deliberate and it requires a plan and every plan requires process, process is the space between Planning and Performance and process requires commitment.
Hence my submission: - Change is commitment. If you want to change forward then you need to be committed to a plan and take responsibility.





Talk to again soon my friend, and you might want to share this with your friends.

Goodness

Monday, June 06, 2016 1 Comments A+ a-

Hey Dreamer,

So today I decided to talk to you about something I feel is very essential if you would do more than survive in this terrain. If you didn’t get the previous letters, just check my previous thoughts at www.iamewoma.blogspot.com.ng you will find it helpful.
So, I know how hard it is to trust people around these parts, you basically need to watch your back so many times because You are not even certain who is against you or who is for you, I am not about talking to you about trust but something I consider very vital if you will thrive. Please, read carefully.

Let us briefly talk about doing good and being good and how it works. I have come to know that goodness is a seed and when planted it produces a tree of goodwill and its fruits are a lasting legacy.

Have you ever wondered why some people seem to “have it easy”, it is not always about connection, it sometimes the basic fact that that have planted a seed of goodness and without knowing they are eating its fruits.

The true depth of a man’s character is known when he has nothing and his true character is revealed when he has all things. You want to know a good person, see how he treats those he is in a position to help and those he will not benefit from. Good people are not good because they have everything; they are good because it is their nature. Abundance amplifies the character of a man and lack reveals the desperation of man.

Always remember this; our life is a gift to those around us. We cannot and should not play the role of God in their lives but you can shine a light so bright that they see God through your eyes. If you will thrive then you must be good for goodness sake.

People will want to and people will take advantage of you, some who misunderstand your intentions and some would out rightly stand in your way but do good nonetheless. Stop trying to please everybody, you can’t and stop campaigning for general acceptance, you cannot carry the weight of the world. Never allow the acceptance or non-acceptance of people determine your stance, Just learn to trust your instinct.

Anticipating reward for your kindness is not being good, that is doing business. Being good for goodness sake implies that even if nobody would notice, I will do what I can to help when I can. Sometimes it hard to be good, especially when you have too many sad experiences but if we allow what other people did to us to stop us from reaching out to others then we are no different from the people who hurt us.

Finally, friend, the very best is churned out when we begin to see the good in others, when we look beyond flaws and frailties, when we begin to trust the fact that not everybody is out to hurt us. Do not allow the “bad in others stop you from being good to others”.

The sign of a good heart is gratitude, Good people are grateful people and a grateful person sets himself up for abundance and that is the key to thriving, my dear friend.


Believe in yourself, be good to those around you, expect nothing back and life will find a way to be good to you.

LearningToLive

Friday, May 06, 2016 0 Comments A+ a-

Hey Hustler,

I hope you have found and are finding my lessons useful for life. I am about to share a few thoughts with you, I was inspired by a facebook post written by a friend and I will share with you relatively something that dropped in my head as I read the post.

We are learning to be Humans. Nobody comes into life holding a manual on how to be an exceptional human being. We learn as we live, sometimes our only advantage is that we have people who help us with and by their experiences.

The reason we are called “Human Beings” and not “Human Beens” is simple, we evolve as we live, we learn as we make mistakes, we grow as we seek opportunities, so please forgive people when they make mistakes, We are just Human be-ing.


Stop trying to impress people, the people you are trying to impress are on the same journey as you, some might be far ahead of you, some might be confused as to who, what and where they are but we are all on a journey of self discovery, so please live life at your own pace and be happy with who you are while striving and thriving to be better.

Be expressive, learning to speak up is essential to defining boundaries and putting yourself out there. Not everybody understands your silence, so it would be good if you help the people in your life by being more expressive. Not everybody has your sense of humour, people understand on different levels. Don’t be too quick to shut people out, sometimes give them the benefit of doubt but never allow people walk over you. Be expressive, define boundaries.

Have a little faith in humanity. Believe in people, Help people, Go out of your way to be of help to a random person. There are nice people everywhere, if you cannot find a nice person then be one. Never allow the ingratitude of others stop you from being good to people. The action of one does not equate to the actions of all. Faith in humanity is an asset not a luxury. Anyways, I will talk to you about this some other time.

Finally, you must learn to be happy and build connections that support your happiness. Don’t surround yourself with people who need you to always have a reason before you can be happy. Happiness is not something borrowed, it is self created. Happiness is not about activities, that is momentary excitement, Happiness most times is a function of the right relationship(s).

When you create memories with people, you give yourself a shot at being happy for a long time. Someone wise enough once said, “Happiness is like a kiss, you must share it to enjoy it”. Happiness is not being liked by the world; Happiness is being understood by those that matter to you

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When happiness is mistaken for fame we are rehearsing for disaster. It gets lonely in the spotlight sometimes, but happiness is having someone to share your struggles with. My dear hustler, remember, we are learning to live, there is no perfect way to live life but if you have enough faith then you will always find a way.

Don’t just  live, Thrive!!!!


Hey Hustler 2

Thursday, April 07, 2016 0 Comments A+ a-

Hey Hustler,

I know we have not spoken to each other in a while and that is because I understand the phase you are in right now, a lot is happening and sometimes you feel you are out of purpose or just maybe you are not even certain what your purpose is, but like i will always say, “stay in the fight, you will come out stronger”.

Here my one kobo, you will need it in this phase of uncertainty, remember all I told you about knowledge(www.iamewoma.blogspot.com.ng/2016/03/hey-hustler.html). Knowledge is at its best potential, applied knowledge is power.

Because you own a car doesn’t mean you can produce it, just cause you know all models of a car does not translate to the fact that you can fix the car if it develops a fault, at best what you have is knowledge and its not valuable but see the Motor Mechanic knows the car, He may not be able to manufacture it but he is knowledgeable enough to fix it, yet it not valuable until he begins to fix it. Applied knowledge is power.

People don’t pay you for what you know, they pay you for doing something with what you know.

Do not join the LXT (League Of Xtraordinary Talkers), they have too many ideas in their head not one failure to show that they attempted something. Be wise, my guy! Money is reward for value, it is earned not demanded.

I will leave you with a few nuggets on wisdom and please, try and apply them this time, you will definitely do better.

-Choose your battles carefully, Knowing when to walk away is wisdom.

-Be available; Let your actions endorse your words.

-Wisdom is being humble enough to know who to listen to. Your mentors speak from a perspective of experience. You don’t have to fall to know it hurts.

-Wisdom listens more than it speaks. Learn to close your mouth, open your ears and open your mind.

-Wisdom is not loud; it is firm. You don’t have to shout to validate your point. Remember, empty barrels make the loudest noise.

-Wisdom begins when you start to understand instructions.

-Wisdom is consistent. Consistency is what births integrity. Integrity is not a spiritual gift just like trust, it is earned.

-Wisdom knows that success is relative and that life is not a competition.

Make everyday count friend. Remember, applied knowledge!



You are made for more, do more than just survive, THRIVE...

Hey-Hustler

Wednesday, March 02, 2016 0 Comments A+ a-

Hey Hustler,


How are you doing? You probably would say fine but the reality is that you have doubts. The plan in your head does not align with the reality of your life and you want to keep going on but you don’t seem to see any reason to.

I know how hard it is trust me, I have been there. You have made countless sacrifices, you have worked for free, and you have trusted, you have served, you have listened and you still don’t see any result. I may want to sound like the religious folks in your circle, all they tell you is “it is well” or probably the well wishers who constantly say “Don’t worry”. Truth is, both set of people are right but I am more concerned about you, dear hustler.

Do you believe in the beauty of your dreams, are you honest in your dealings and are you really teachable, who are you listening to and who in heaven’s name is your mentor? A lot of questions that require honest answers.

Who told you, it would happen just like that? Why didn’t they tell you that effort does not equate results? Or did you miss that class? Effort plus consistency plus a lot of failing is the formula you need to see your dreams come to life. It is hard to believe when all your efforts amounts to almost nothing and its hard still when you don’t know how exactly to create consistent effort. I am not here to write ten principles of success; no instead, I want you to see the beauty of your dreams, to dare to keep believing despite the odds.

Dear Hustler, Knowledge is King. The depth of our life is knowledge. It is about the things we know first, then that knowledge translates to action and then we begin to see our life take shape. To ignore knowledge is to be obnoxious and that is when we become blinded to reason and leave our life to chance. The reason, knowledge is king can be summed up in one single sentence, “IF YOU KNOW BETTER THEN YOU WILL DO BETTER.” To seek after knowledge is the key to advancement yet we are drawn to a point of complacency most times. Truth is most times we are blinded by knowledge, because it has the tendency to make us proud and reckless. To believe that we have a mastery of things and we need not quest for more. Knowledge is king yet many do not seek for it.

Dear Hustler, your life worth is measured by your network not just by your net worth, you will have days when you are down to nothing and during those days, your biggest bounce back would be, who you know and what they bring to the table, build relationships.

Let us continue this conversation some other time.....

By the way, I put together a couple of memes, it would help you make sense of your hustle, Stay believing, keep pushing and Please, be good to everyone you meet, consistently sow seeds of kindness, you will eat fruits of greatness.

R3- my walking thoughts

Wednesday, January 20, 2016 0 Comments A+ a-

As part of my 2016 journey,  I jut thought to share these thoughts..  find it helpful..

If it makes you better, invest more time in it. If it makes you bitter, stop trying to change it.

Your life’s purpose does not include “trying to make everyone understand you” always remember, it is mind over matter.

Success is accumulation of sustained effort, You don’t wake up successful. You are not Adam and Life is not Garden of Eden. The dream demands hustle.

Don’t drop out of school Just because Bill Gates did same, Education is what you have left after School is done. You don’t want to be blindsided, Stay hungry and stay learning.

It is a crime to sound smart, look smart and actually be dull. Don’t focus only on your packaging, build content.

Life is tough for a man without vision and it’s tougher for the man with vision, and the man who survives is the one who learn that Doing is always better than Dreaming.

You are one effort away from success but see the effort is multiple, so you can stop trying because you never know which of the effort, the one that would yield result is.

Friends know that they don’t have to talk every day to remain friends, *huh* this is just another reason not to keep in touch. Great friends know that a simple hi every day gives birth to a long gist about nothing and that is what great friendship is about. Stay in touch always!!

Happiness is a sum total of our relationships. It is good to find happiness in and with yourself but once you get involved in a relationship that changes, Your happiness becomes relative, if you don’t believe me, try and fall in love.

People think on various levels, sometimes the speed of acceptance is determined by the depth of thoughts. In simple English, People only understand from their level of perception.

Take risks. You never know what success feels like until you know what it feels like to fail.

It’s okay to be afraid, it’s okay to worry, you are human. The real problem is allowing your fears and worry control your actions.

We are not perfect, I think everyone knows that but if that’s your reason for every mistake then you are simply irresponsible.

Smile often, frown sometimes, Smile again, then frown some more, life is a blend of emotions. Just be you.

R3

Monday, January 04, 2016 2 Comments A+ a-

So it’s another year and I am back here, honestly grateful for life and chance, Sometimes, life plays a fast one and most times we dare to push beyond our limit and decide to be better. This is a short one and I am deciding to do this now and help somebody make sense of 2016.

By the way, if you don’t have clear cut goals already then you are late, 2016 started two months ago. The frenzy of January 1st was just an official change of date and the celebrations would ultimately amount to nothing without a definite plan for the year.

2015 had its time and it was different for everyone but the success of 2016 depends on the practical steps you took or do I say the foundations you laid in 2015. You cannot just pretend like 2015 never happened just because you screamed “Happy New Year”. Life is a succession theory, every step matters.

Did you make mistakes in 2015, congrats; you have learned how to do better. Did you lose some folks or opportunities in 2015; well you have either learned a lesson or gleaned a reason. You must realize that 2016 would only be better than 2015 if you deliberately take steps to make it better. If you live the first three months of the year 2016, the same way you lived in 2015, you will end up the same way; it is as simple as that.

2016 would be largely about 3 R’s and I would share thoughts along these lines this Year as we make progress. 2016 would largely be about “Relationships, Risks and Results” .

Ø  Build relationships: make deliberate efforts to build, don’t assume people don’t need you, get involved. Have a social life, Build your social capital. Stay off your phone at least twice every week, pretend it’s 1996, have a conversation that does not involve smileys and emoji-es. 

Ø  Take risks: Go against the tide, be calculative yet spontaneous. Don't assume you will fail, go ahead and fail, life will reward your efforts. Karma respects consistency.


Ø  Result: No stories, demand excellence from yourself. Stay in the hustle.


Have yourself an R3 Year. Do more than survive... THRIVE!!!!!!
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